Choice, Do We Want It?

Having the ability to choose is the most beautiful and amazing gift in life.

Before anything else, the one thing that unites every human being is choice. Having that ability to think and form a thought and then decide to either think a certain way or act a certain way is amazing. From birth to old people in diapers we all are faced with choices constantly.

I’ve found people misunderstand this gift. So many people today take that ability for granted. Myself included on most days. Because it’s always been there we just…. don’t even think about it most of the time. So many people don’t even want it. They love having people tell them what to think, believe, or do. Buy this, pray to this god, don’t smoke MJ, do smoke MJ, smoke cigarettes, don’t smoke cigarettes, drink coffee, don’t marry that person, go to this school, watch this movie….ect. We are constantly surrounded by people trying to take our ability to choose away. I feel, we let them. I find more often then not, people find a group of other people to do their thinking for them. I think this is commonly found in organized religion but it is found in other places as well, such as our bipartisan government. Republican vs Democrat. Muslim vs Christian. Not to mention the propaganda  and fear tactics that are fed to us on any news program.

People don’t like or want to do their own research because its toooooo haaaaaaard. Just like they don’t want to eat healthy even though it could save their children’s lives and later, their health problems. Not to mention their own health problems. It’s just too hard to go to Whole Foods or Sprouts and buy quality grocery’s and take them home, pick out a healthy recipe, and cook it. It is soooo muuuuuch easieeeeer to go to Red Robin and order a somewhat delicious burger that has so many additives our gut screams at us with weird BM’s. Not to mention, it has been proven so many times that eating out is just plain more expensive. So you’re not even saving money! They just aren’t weird enough to make it a problem, I guess? They would rather take prescription drugs… because that is so much more convenient than actually fixing the problem. Lets just put a bandaid on a gaping wound.

It would be soooo much easier to pretend that Global Warming (oh i’m sorry… climate change) isn’t happening. To acknowledge it exists is an acknowledgement that we have to change. People don’t like change, they fear it. In order to change, we must first make a decision, we must first make a choice.

Making a decision is hard and takes research and a lot of pondering, but I wouldn’t trade my ability to choose for anything. It takes looking at multiple view points and maybe not choosing any but coming up with your own, possibly better idea. It makes us human and it means we are alive. I like being alive, thank you very much.

To be afraid of choice happens, but we can choose not to succumb to that fear and be brave. Be our own people and don’t forget EVERYONE THINKS DIFFERENTLY. There is no one way to do anything. It’s part of the beauty and variety of life. I will admit wholeheartedly that when I get stuck on an idea or an action that I think could benefit many people, I share it. But there is a difference between sharing an idea, accepting its not for the people you’ve shared it with (at least at that moment) and then not persecute them for it.

I don’t agree with my family on a lot of things and I don’t like it when they disagree  with me. But I’m constantly working on accepting them for who they are and the decisions they make because in the end, I don’t have to live with their choices, they do. I can offer a perspective, and they can take it or leave. Most of the time they basically say I don’t know what I’m talking about and I’ll gain all the wisdom they have when I get older. Nothing infuriates and insults me more than that irrational, silly statement that with age comes wisdom. A child in their innocence can be wiser than an 92 year old priest.

Sometimes, it would be nice if they just said, I get you don’t agree but this is why I don’t agree with you. I pray for the day when I can have a real conversation with them without them immediately dismissing what I have to say so that they can follow it with how I just don’t know anything and that my way of thinking is wrong instead of just different. I think they represent a whole bunch of people who react like this when someone doesn’t live the same as they do or think the same as they do. They continually surround themselves with only one way of thinking and it completely blinds them from the rest of the world. It makes their god smaller along with their universe. It makes it harder to think that this world is changing and we need to change with it or become extinct. Its hard to acknowledge there is anything else besides our own way of thinking if we only surround ourselves…with our own way of thinking. It completely dismissing individuality which was God’s most precious gift. Our individuality is so deep within us and such an amazing gift that it is even written among our unique DNA. No person is alike. DNA is even changed based on our thoughts and emotions. That uniqueness cannot be stomped out by any group or thought. They’ll try because it makes it easier for us to be used and taken advantage of, but we can overcome and we can remember to love.

I used to be in that same predicament. Thinking it was my way or the highway. I’m not even remotely done growing or learning to be the best version of myself, but I hope I’ve come a long way. I truly believe one of our deepest human desires is to be loved and accepted. I still have my moments and I still catch myself thinking ridiculously close minded judgmental thoughts but I strive not to lie to myself that I am perfect or that I know everything this world has to offer. I love growing and changing and finding the best possible way to approach a situation. I like being healthy and cooking my own hand picked food. I desire to have a healthy mind AND spirit. Forward, ever forward.

This was an opinion piece! Thank you so much for reading if you made it this far. Love you all!

Last word of the day, Choice. Just remember to choose. Be grateful for it.

Be Bold

NoFear

All progress is made outside of the comfort zone.

I WISH I could take credit for such an awesome thought. However, that honor goes to Tim Ferris (he has a cool podcast too!!), famous entrepreneur and author of The Four Hour Work Week. I can’t even say I’ve finished the book, even though it sits on my book shelf. I can say, that what I did read (I will finish it!!….After I finish Son of a Witch..) was inspiring and a good kick in the booty. Get off the couch (comfort zone), have a few impossible ideas daily, and boom! Who knows what’s in store, as long as you are following what you love.

This line in the book especially spoke to me because it seems like after college, my desire to push myself to above and beyond… stopped. It just kind of paused itself as I looked for a job to pay my bills, roommate troubles, dating someone new, living in a new city with no family and only a few friends nearby. I’ll admit it, it was out of my comfort zone just to move to Texas! Maybe it overwhelmed my system and I needed some time to reboot.

Whatever the reason, I didn’t push myself. When a wandering soul beings to feel restless, it’s not just a new physical place it craves, but a new outlook, activities, attitude, and perspective.  I truly believe that when one’s soul starts feeling restless, it’s for a good reason and one of the first steps is to start looking at things, places, view points and people that are out of the comfort zone.

I’m bringing this up because, I have finally pushed myself into something I’m a little afraid of, a little intimidated by and could pretty much fail at if I don’t give it my all. I’m going back to school for massage therapy!!!

I start tomorrow, bright and early…. and I’m terrified. I was never huge into anatomy or bones or muscles but…. It’s something I’ve never delved into and I predict I am going to love it. If I don’t love it for itself, I can at least love getting out of my comfort zone and meeting new people.

I’m going to be the most upstreamist massage therapist that this world (or just state?) has ever witnessed! The medical world won’t know what hit it in a years time ;).

Catch ya on the flipside!

The Jitters, Heebie-Jeebies, and Those Screaming Meemies

Jitters = fancy way of saying “I’m nervous and feeling anxious!” Today, on the cusp of vacation, I have a severe case of the jitters. I looked up the definition(nervousness, another word for jitters: an uneasy psychological state) and ways to calm those pesky feelings down. What I found seemed to be more related to an actual psychological problem. I don’t think the average person has “nervousness issues” like someone who gets anxiety attacks. Anyone can get them of course but, it takes extreme (subjective) circumstances for it to reach that level of intensity.

The kind of jitters I’m talking about are the kinds that drive you to distraction because you can only think of the future. Past and present don’t exist when the jitters are contracted. The only thing that matters in the mind of someone with jitters (i think….?) would HAVE to be the future! I am so focused on everything I need and want to do before my flight leaves on Monday morning that focusing on work is…. impossible. Impossible, I tell you!!

The satisfaction I would get from completing my list, is unreachable while I am tied to this desk and chair. My bottom knows it wants to leave and is falling asleep to punish me for not moving. I have been attempting for months now, to NOT focus on what I want to do with my life simply because right NOW, I must be here. I must be in this corporate world. Even if it is temporary. I must exist here in order to move forward. It’s the pause button my circumstances have pushed for me. I bring this up because, I am on the brink of 10 days of vacation. Even though visiting family is stressful in and of itself, it’s still so much better than where I am sitting… right… now… I’m hoping these days will bring more clarity to what I want my next personal move to be.

I’ve been working on rebuilding my hobbies and although I am limited by salary and so I must adjust what I like to do accordingly and build up supplies (knitting, graphic design, photography, sewing machine, puppy). I’ve recently taken up lyrical writing to attempt to express my feelings. Good luck with that, I think to myself!

I have no clue how to get through this type of jitters, this normal jittery feeling. I, apparently write blog posts. If anyone has helpful tips on dealing more with the disappointing “now”, because of the hopeful future, please post them and let me know.

The struggle is real!

*the only helpful hint I have is, put Hozier on your pandora. He has a calming voice and the station pulls up other random calm and beautiful music. 

 

Song of the Day – Turn On Me by The Shins

This was the perfect song for this past month or so for me. It is called Turn On Me by The Shins, a great band with great messages in many of their songs.The whole song meaning revolves around falling out with a former band member, they had issues like most relationships do. This was huge because recently in my own relationships (mostly my man) I had the revelation that in any relationship that has potential, whether its platonic or romantic, if there is that missing aspect of communication then it will be doomed. It amazes me that if we tweaked only a few of the ways we communicate with that significant other, it can completely change everything and it will grow. If we refuse to change or back down and remain in our stubborn societal mindset of “I’m the center of the universe and I’m more important than everyone else,” inevitably we will be setting our relationships up for failure.

So affections fade away,
And do adults just learn to play
The most ridiculous, repulsive games?
On the faith of ruddy sons,
And the double-barreled guns,
You better hurry,
Rabbit, run, run, run.
‘Cause meeting you was fun,
And there’s a lot of hungry howlers in this one cell.
We’re taking it over,
Their brittle, thorny stems,
They break before they bend,
And neither one of us is one of them.

All it takes is a little humility, respect for the human person, and forgiveness. I’m sure easier said than done, but these are simple concepts that our own stubborn pride can make complicated. All the same, it does take two to tango. If it doesn’t work out, get back on that horse and ride!! Never forget hope and forgiveness.

So I took your licks at the time,
And to change like that is just so hard to do,
Hard to do.
Don’t let it whip-crack your life,
And bow out from the fight,
Those old pious sisters were right
The worst part is over,
Now, get back on that horse and ride.

Song of the Day – It’s A Good Life

I heard this song while I was getting ready for my day and after the past few days I needed that uplifting song. I had to take my boyfriend to the ER the other night (he is fine now!) but it has been a rough couple of days taking care of him, we are both ready for his pain to go away, and this song about freedom helps keep us focused on what we are fighting for. I’ll write about it later but, for now listen to this lovely song by the Kongos! I present to you “It’s a Good Life.”

Yeah we all have had those dreams
O-o-of the sun, and the sea and an island
Where you switch off
It’s a good life
It’s a good life
For me

Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

O-o-of the sun, and the sea and an island

O-o-of the sun, and the sea and an island…..

 

Little Known Ways To Make The Most Out Of Craziness

“You have to go on and be crazy. Craziness is like heaven.” ~Jimi Hendrix

“‘Crazy’ is a term of art; ‘Insane’ is a term of law. Remember that, and you will save yourself a lot of trouble.” ~Hunter S. Thompson

To start out with… if you have a bored friend you are out with on the weekend, make sure they don’t steal a bottle of vodka from the table next door just for kicks. It’s a fast way to end a nice weekend evening and someone will inevitably have to pay for the bottle service that was stolen. It is never worth it.

Second, try to avoid clubs where the average patron is near 45 years old and where rather large older men are being “escorted” by pretty and shapely young ladies.  I felt like I would see their pimp walk around the corner any moment. Now that I think about it… the club manager kind of looked like a pimp. Coincidence? Maybe, maybe not!

Third, if you find yourself in a cool environment but then you sit down on the couch and are suddenly overwhelmed by the smell of body odor, have no fear of the repercussions of leaving. It is a better alternative to having to smell years of sweat that has soaked into pleather material of a “vintage” couch. There may have also been the faint smell of an e-cigarette filled with marijuana (efficient to a fault).

Fourth and final, watch out for cougars! That is all.

Now we get to making the most of it! We had fun regardless of all the craziness of the above. We had a few drinks, we danced a bit (especially since the seat smelled dank, we didn’t really feel like sitting) and we made some fun memories. Luckily no one wound up in jail and $300 is money that can be made back although still a lot to just lose. It’s also worth it to see what your friends are like in crisis, it’s always good to see who has your back in situations like these. Makes me very thankful for the best friends I have.

Otherwise, I’m not gonna lie, it was a weird experience and I’m not exactly sure what else there could have been as a bright side to the situation. It was crappy for everyone in the end really. The club got stolen from (paid back of course), they had grumpy customers because of the missing bottle, and we were unaware of the situation until it was already happening and could really only help with damage control. I’ve talked about good karma on here, now its time for me to talk about bad karma. This wasn’t the first time something like this has happened (I’ve never been there for it, thank goodness) and they had gotten away with it. But, if you steal… it definitely WILL come back to bite you in the ass. Maybe not right away, but eventually the universe will settle things. In the end, it’s better to have karma come sooner rather than later, just saying.

A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy? ~ Albert Einstein

A question that sometimes drives me hazy: am I or are the others crazy? ~ Albert Einstein

 

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