Choice, Do We Want It?

Having the ability to choose is the most beautiful and amazing gift in life.

Before anything else, the one thing that unites every human being is choice. Having that ability to think and form a thought and then decide to either think a certain way or act a certain way is amazing. From birth to old people in diapers we all are faced with choices constantly.

I’ve found people misunderstand this gift. So many people today take that ability for granted. Myself included on most days. Because it’s always been there we just…. don’t even think about it most of the time. So many people don’t even want it. They love having people tell them what to think, believe, or do. Buy this, pray to this god, don’t smoke MJ, do smoke MJ, smoke cigarettes, don’t smoke cigarettes, drink coffee, don’t marry that person, go to this school, watch this movie….ect. We are constantly surrounded by people trying to take our ability to choose away. I feel, we let them. I find more often then not, people find a group of other people to do their thinking for them. I think this is commonly found in organized religion but it is found in other places as well, such as our bipartisan government. Republican vs Democrat. Muslim vs Christian. Not to mention the propaganda  and fear tactics that are fed to us on any news program.

People don’t like or want to do their own research because its toooooo haaaaaaard. Just like they don’t want to eat healthy even though it could save their children’s lives and later, their health problems. Not to mention their own health problems. It’s just too hard to go to Whole Foods or Sprouts and buy quality grocery’s and take them home, pick out a healthy recipe, and cook it. It is soooo muuuuuch easieeeeer to go to Red Robin and order a somewhat delicious burger that has so many additives our gut screams at us with weird BM’s. Not to mention, it has been proven so many times that eating out is just plain more expensive. So you’re not even saving money! They just aren’t weird enough to make it a problem, I guess? They would rather take prescription drugs… because that is so much more convenient than actually fixing the problem. Lets just put a bandaid on a gaping wound.

It would be soooo much easier to pretend that Global Warming (oh i’m sorry… climate change) isn’t happening. To acknowledge it exists is an acknowledgement that we have to change. People don’t like change, they fear it. In order to change, we must first make a decision, we must first make a choice.

Making a decision is hard and takes research and a lot of pondering, but I wouldn’t trade my ability to choose for anything. It takes looking at multiple view points and maybe not choosing any but coming up with your own, possibly better idea. It makes us human and it means we are alive. I like being alive, thank you very much.

To be afraid of choice happens, but we can choose not to succumb to that fear and be brave. Be our own people and don’t forget EVERYONE THINKS DIFFERENTLY. There is no one way to do anything. It’s part of the beauty and variety of life. I will admit wholeheartedly that when I get stuck on an idea or an action that I think could benefit many people, I share it. But there is a difference between sharing an idea, accepting its not for the people you’ve shared it with (at least at that moment) and then not persecute them for it.

I don’t agree with my family on a lot of things and I don’t like it when they disagree  with me. But I’m constantly working on accepting them for who they are and the decisions they make because in the end, I don’t have to live with their choices, they do. I can offer a perspective, and they can take it or leave. Most of the time they basically say I don’t know what I’m talking about and I’ll gain all the wisdom they have when I get older. Nothing infuriates and insults me more than that irrational, silly statement that with age comes wisdom. A child in their innocence can be wiser than an 92 year old priest.

Sometimes, it would be nice if they just said, I get you don’t agree but this is why I don’t agree with you. I pray for the day when I can have a real conversation with them without them immediately dismissing what I have to say so that they can follow it with how I just don’t know anything and that my way of thinking is wrong instead of just different. I think they represent a whole bunch of people who react like this when someone doesn’t live the same as they do or think the same as they do. They continually surround themselves with only one way of thinking and it completely blinds them from the rest of the world. It makes their god smaller along with their universe. It makes it harder to think that this world is changing and we need to change with it or become extinct. Its hard to acknowledge there is anything else besides our own way of thinking if we only surround ourselves…with our own way of thinking. It completely dismissing individuality which was God’s most precious gift. Our individuality is so deep within us and such an amazing gift that it is even written among our unique DNA. No person is alike. DNA is even changed based on our thoughts and emotions. That uniqueness cannot be stomped out by any group or thought. They’ll try because it makes it easier for us to be used and taken advantage of, but we can overcome and we can remember to love.

I used to be in that same predicament. Thinking it was my way or the highway. I’m not even remotely done growing or learning to be the best version of myself, but I hope I’ve come a long way. I truly believe one of our deepest human desires is to be loved and accepted. I still have my moments and I still catch myself thinking ridiculously close minded judgmental thoughts but I strive not to lie to myself that I am perfect or that I know everything this world has to offer. I love growing and changing and finding the best possible way to approach a situation. I like being healthy and cooking my own hand picked food. I desire to have a healthy mind AND spirit. Forward, ever forward.

This was an opinion piece! Thank you so much for reading if you made it this far. Love you all!

Last word of the day, Choice. Just remember to choose. Be grateful for it.

Be Bold

NoFear

All progress is made outside of the comfort zone.

I WISH I could take credit for such an awesome thought. However, that honor goes to Tim Ferris (he has a cool podcast too!!), famous entrepreneur and author of The Four Hour Work Week. I can’t even say I’ve finished the book, even though it sits on my book shelf. I can say, that what I did read (I will finish it!!….After I finish Son of a Witch..) was inspiring and a good kick in the booty. Get off the couch (comfort zone), have a few impossible ideas daily, and boom! Who knows what’s in store, as long as you are following what you love.

This line in the book especially spoke to me because it seems like after college, my desire to push myself to above and beyond… stopped. It just kind of paused itself as I looked for a job to pay my bills, roommate troubles, dating someone new, living in a new city with no family and only a few friends nearby. I’ll admit it, it was out of my comfort zone just to move to Texas! Maybe it overwhelmed my system and I needed some time to reboot.

Whatever the reason, I didn’t push myself. When a wandering soul beings to feel restless, it’s not just a new physical place it craves, but a new outlook, activities, attitude, and perspective.  I truly believe that when one’s soul starts feeling restless, it’s for a good reason and one of the first steps is to start looking at things, places, view points and people that are out of the comfort zone.

I’m bringing this up because, I have finally pushed myself into something I’m a little afraid of, a little intimidated by and could pretty much fail at if I don’t give it my all. I’m going back to school for massage therapy!!!

I start tomorrow, bright and early…. and I’m terrified. I was never huge into anatomy or bones or muscles but…. It’s something I’ve never delved into and I predict I am going to love it. If I don’t love it for itself, I can at least love getting out of my comfort zone and meeting new people.

I’m going to be the most upstreamist massage therapist that this world (or just state?) has ever witnessed! The medical world won’t know what hit it in a years time ;).

Catch ya on the flipside!

Freedom, Pure and Simple

“If liberty means anything at all, it means the right to tell people what they do not want to hear.”
George Orwell

“I may not agree with you, but I will defend to the death your right to make an ass of yourself.”
Oscar Wilde

I’m sure everyone is talking about the James Franco and Seth Rogen movie, “The Interview” and its

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Pictures by Pixaby.com

cancellation. In my life, I haven’t ever seen a movie pulled due to fear of repercussions. Movie makers LIKE to make people squirm and stretch their brains. That is the point of making movies, to represent people, things, places, times etc that don’t have the chance to represent themselves. Here in the USA, we have been blessed with freedom of speech and expression, our government knows (for the most part) that humans NEED self-expression, we need that stimulation. Or we will leave. Leave by either checking out mentally and going through life sleepwalking or…. simply leave the country. I am very thankful for this freedom. I am NOT thankful for cyber terrorism or any kind of terrorism for that matter. I am only thankful for it, in a way, because, it shows us how far our society has fallen. If we are able to so easily bow down to an unknown entity whose action has been to leak documents, what does that symbolize? Important documents to Sony have been leaked, sure, but just documents all the same. These hackers could be anyone. If it IS North Korea, our backing down is an even bigger problem. Sony has the right to release or not release any movie it wants to, but backing down like this would be a clear sign to any current terrorist groups that the USA is weak. I would take it as a sign to move. I won’t be surprised if we see more incidents such as this. Perhaps even worse.

I shall not be silenced

I shall not be silenced

This seems to me like bad parenting. When a kid throws a temper tantrum in the store because you said no to a candy bar. Instead of holding your ground, you are so embarrassed by your screaming child that you hurry through the line and give in to his demand. Sure, here is your candy bar, just stop making a scene….. That is what we are saying to the cyber hackers/North Korea. Sure… you can control what we put in our theaters.  Have we, as a nation, forgotten what freedom of speech means? I certainly hope not.

“Once a government is committed to the principle of silencing the voice of opposition, it has only one way to go, and that is down the path of increasingly repressive measures, until it becomes a source of terror to all its citizens and creates a country where everyone lives in fear.”

[Special Message to the Congress on the Internal Security of the United States, August 8, 1950]”
Harry S. Truman

The Jitters, Heebie-Jeebies, and Those Screaming Meemies

Jitters = fancy way of saying “I’m nervous and feeling anxious!” Today, on the cusp of vacation, I have a severe case of the jitters. I looked up the definition(nervousness, another word for jitters: an uneasy psychological state) and ways to calm those pesky feelings down. What I found seemed to be more related to an actual psychological problem. I don’t think the average person has “nervousness issues” like someone who gets anxiety attacks. Anyone can get them of course but, it takes extreme (subjective) circumstances for it to reach that level of intensity.

The kind of jitters I’m talking about are the kinds that drive you to distraction because you can only think of the future. Past and present don’t exist when the jitters are contracted. The only thing that matters in the mind of someone with jitters (i think….?) would HAVE to be the future! I am so focused on everything I need and want to do before my flight leaves on Monday morning that focusing on work is…. impossible. Impossible, I tell you!!

The satisfaction I would get from completing my list, is unreachable while I am tied to this desk and chair. My bottom knows it wants to leave and is falling asleep to punish me for not moving. I have been attempting for months now, to NOT focus on what I want to do with my life simply because right NOW, I must be here. I must be in this corporate world. Even if it is temporary. I must exist here in order to move forward. It’s the pause button my circumstances have pushed for me. I bring this up because, I am on the brink of 10 days of vacation. Even though visiting family is stressful in and of itself, it’s still so much better than where I am sitting… right… now… I’m hoping these days will bring more clarity to what I want my next personal move to be.

I’ve been working on rebuilding my hobbies and although I am limited by salary and so I must adjust what I like to do accordingly and build up supplies (knitting, graphic design, photography, sewing machine, puppy). I’ve recently taken up lyrical writing to attempt to express my feelings. Good luck with that, I think to myself!

I have no clue how to get through this type of jitters, this normal jittery feeling. I, apparently write blog posts. If anyone has helpful tips on dealing more with the disappointing “now”, because of the hopeful future, please post them and let me know.

The struggle is real!

*the only helpful hint I have is, put Hozier on your pandora. He has a calming voice and the station pulls up other random calm and beautiful music. 

 

Cling, Clamor and Climb

“Some guy said to me: Don’t you think you’re too old to sing rock n’ roll?
I said: You’d better check with Mick Jagger.”
Cher

Age and its obstacles. Or are there any? Does age really bring more hardships into our lives or do we just deal with them in different ways as we gain years? Can life really get away from us or do we just forget to pay attention? I guess my question is, what does age have to do with anything?

“I’m too old for that!” or “Eh, my knee hurts cause of the bad weather, so I just watched re-runs last night.” or maybe “I can’t keep up with you young-in’s.” Whatever the excuse, people always find a reason to lower their expectations about themselves and their activities and settle for the socially acceptable mediocrity. We put up this wall around us and what’s inside is our “comfort zone.”  That zone protects us and keeps us safe. Nothing unexpected happens and a lot of people like it that way. To me, life is what you make it. I have seen some people who I would never guess their age because their personality and experiences were so vibrant and dynamic. That’s the kind of old person I want to be. One that you can’t tell my age unless I tell you  or because I’ve done so much in my life that I would have to be a certain age in order to fit it all in.

I’m not saying I’ve met that many old people who just stop living at some point(although I have seen my fair share of retirement homes), it’s just their priorities change and they start to ask for less from the world instead of forever pushing their limits. I just know that I never want to stop thinking like my twenty something self because… the minute I do that I’m limiting my experiences. Maybe ultimately it would be better to almost forget ones age and judge yourself on life experiences instead of what year you were born. I find more often than not that maturity is not based on age it’s based on how much we aide and contribute to our own lives.

Never stop climbing for more. I don’t mean the corporate ladder either. I mean cling, clamor and climb your way to a life no one could ever encompass in a book, article, or film. Make your life unrepeatable and ultimately too good to be true. Realize that you can do it at this very moment by embracing that mindset and finding your own personal adventures right outside your doorstep. Ask yourself this question just to see: are you being an active participant in your life or if you are just riding along waiting… always waiting for something better to come hit you in the forehead? Figure out how long you are willing to wait before you make life happen.

“Success is determined not by whether or not you face obstacles, but by your reaction to them. And if you look at these obstacles as a containing fence, they become your excuse for failure. If you look at them as a hurdle, each one strengthens you for the next.”
Ben Carson, Gifted Hands: The Ben Carson Story

“Often it isn’t the mountains ahead that wear you out, it’s the little pebble in your shoe.”
Muhammad Ali

This was in response to “Age-Old Questions” prompt in case y’all were wondering!

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