Choice, Do We Want It?

Having the ability to choose is the most beautiful and amazing gift in life.

Before anything else, the one thing that unites every human being is choice. Having that ability to think and form a thought and then decide to either think a certain way or act a certain way is amazing. From birth to old people in diapers we all are faced with choices constantly.

I’ve found people misunderstand this gift. So many people today take that ability for granted. Myself included on most days. Because it’s always been there we just…. don’t even think about it most of the time. So many people don’t even want it. They love having people tell them what to think, believe, or do. Buy this, pray to this god, don’t smoke MJ, do smoke MJ, smoke cigarettes, don’t smoke cigarettes, drink coffee, don’t marry that person, go to this school, watch this movie….ect. We are constantly surrounded by people trying to take our ability to choose away. I feel, we let them. I find more often then not, people find a group of other people to do their thinking for them. I think this is commonly found in organized religion but it is found in other places as well, such as our bipartisan government. Republican vs Democrat. Muslim vs Christian. Not to mention the propaganda  and fear tactics that are fed to us on any news program.

People don’t like or want to do their own research because its toooooo haaaaaaard. Just like they don’t want to eat healthy even though it could save their children’s lives and later, their health problems. Not to mention their own health problems. It’s just too hard to go to Whole Foods or Sprouts and buy quality grocery’s and take them home, pick out a healthy recipe, and cook it. It is soooo muuuuuch easieeeeer to go to Red Robin and order a somewhat delicious burger that has so many additives our gut screams at us with weird BM’s. Not to mention, it has been proven so many times that eating out is just plain more expensive. So you’re not even saving money! They just aren’t weird enough to make it a problem, I guess? They would rather take prescription drugs… because that is so much more convenient than actually fixing the problem. Lets just put a bandaid on a gaping wound.

It would be soooo much easier to pretend that Global Warming (oh i’m sorry… climate change) isn’t happening. To acknowledge it exists is an acknowledgement that we have to change. People don’t like change, they fear it. In order to change, we must first make a decision, we must first make a choice.

Making a decision is hard and takes research and a lot of pondering, but I wouldn’t trade my ability to choose for anything. It takes looking at multiple view points and maybe not choosing any but coming up with your own, possibly better idea. It makes us human and it means we are alive. I like being alive, thank you very much.

To be afraid of choice happens, but we can choose not to succumb to that fear and be brave. Be our own people and don’t forget EVERYONE THINKS DIFFERENTLY. There is no one way to do anything. It’s part of the beauty and variety of life. I will admit wholeheartedly that when I get stuck on an idea or an action that I think could benefit many people, I share it. But there is a difference between sharing an idea, accepting its not for the people you’ve shared it with (at least at that moment) and then not persecute them for it.

I don’t agree with my family on a lot of things and I don’t like it when they disagree  with me. But I’m constantly working on accepting them for who they are and the decisions they make because in the end, I don’t have to live with their choices, they do. I can offer a perspective, and they can take it or leave. Most of the time they basically say I don’t know what I’m talking about and I’ll gain all the wisdom they have when I get older. Nothing infuriates and insults me more than that irrational, silly statement that with age comes wisdom. A child in their innocence can be wiser than an 92 year old priest.

Sometimes, it would be nice if they just said, I get you don’t agree but this is why I don’t agree with you. I pray for the day when I can have a real conversation with them without them immediately dismissing what I have to say so that they can follow it with how I just don’t know anything and that my way of thinking is wrong instead of just different. I think they represent a whole bunch of people who react like this when someone doesn’t live the same as they do or think the same as they do. They continually surround themselves with only one way of thinking and it completely blinds them from the rest of the world. It makes their god smaller along with their universe. It makes it harder to think that this world is changing and we need to change with it or become extinct. Its hard to acknowledge there is anything else besides our own way of thinking if we only surround ourselves…with our own way of thinking. It completely dismissing individuality which was God’s most precious gift. Our individuality is so deep within us and such an amazing gift that it is even written among our unique DNA. No person is alike. DNA is even changed based on our thoughts and emotions. That uniqueness cannot be stomped out by any group or thought. They’ll try because it makes it easier for us to be used and taken advantage of, but we can overcome and we can remember to love.

I used to be in that same predicament. Thinking it was my way or the highway. I’m not even remotely done growing or learning to be the best version of myself, but I hope I’ve come a long way. I truly believe one of our deepest human desires is to be loved and accepted. I still have my moments and I still catch myself thinking ridiculously close minded judgmental thoughts but I strive not to lie to myself that I am perfect or that I know everything this world has to offer. I love growing and changing and finding the best possible way to approach a situation. I like being healthy and cooking my own hand picked food. I desire to have a healthy mind AND spirit. Forward, ever forward.

This was an opinion piece! Thank you so much for reading if you made it this far. Love you all!

Last word of the day, Choice. Just remember to choose. Be grateful for it.

Be Bold

NoFear

All progress is made outside of the comfort zone.

I WISH I could take credit for such an awesome thought. However, that honor goes to Tim Ferris (he has a cool podcast too!!), famous entrepreneur and author of The Four Hour Work Week. I can’t even say I’ve finished the book, even though it sits on my book shelf. I can say, that what I did read (I will finish it!!….After I finish Son of a Witch..) was inspiring and a good kick in the booty. Get off the couch (comfort zone), have a few impossible ideas daily, and boom! Who knows what’s in store, as long as you are following what you love.

This line in the book especially spoke to me because it seems like after college, my desire to push myself to above and beyond… stopped. It just kind of paused itself as I looked for a job to pay my bills, roommate troubles, dating someone new, living in a new city with no family and only a few friends nearby. I’ll admit it, it was out of my comfort zone just to move to Texas! Maybe it overwhelmed my system and I needed some time to reboot.

Whatever the reason, I didn’t push myself. When a wandering soul beings to feel restless, it’s not just a new physical place it craves, but a new outlook, activities, attitude, and perspective.  I truly believe that when one’s soul starts feeling restless, it’s for a good reason and one of the first steps is to start looking at things, places, view points and people that are out of the comfort zone.

I’m bringing this up because, I have finally pushed myself into something I’m a little afraid of, a little intimidated by and could pretty much fail at if I don’t give it my all. I’m going back to school for massage therapy!!!

I start tomorrow, bright and early…. and I’m terrified. I was never huge into anatomy or bones or muscles but…. It’s something I’ve never delved into and I predict I am going to love it. If I don’t love it for itself, I can at least love getting out of my comfort zone and meeting new people.

I’m going to be the most upstreamist massage therapist that this world (or just state?) has ever witnessed! The medical world won’t know what hit it in a years time ;).

Catch ya on the flipside!

I’m Back My Friends!

Golden Trees

Golden Trees

I am finally back on my blog for real for the first time since January!!!! This means I will actually spend time documenting the mundane, the exciting, and random life of yours truly. Forgive me if I have been gone so long you’ve forgotten who I am, the fault is all mine.

A lot has happened since January! I nannied for two awesome kids that I mentioned in a previous post. Those little boys taught me a lot about myself and how to handle and become friends with children. Even though I am not an only child (coming from a family of six), I am the youngest. We all know what that means! I was spoiled to a certain extent and I didn’t really have to deal with other siblings encroaching on my privacy or being supremely annoying. I was the annoying one and I taught my siblings how to handle kids (at least I hope I helped in all my craziness). So these two little boys truly were a blessing and very intelligent for their ages. I miss them a lot as I have yet to meet equally intelligent kids and reasonable children. I can only hope my own kids will be that great!

Unfortunately, in May I had to leave my apartment to stay with my boyfriends family for the summer and also that family’s employment because it just wasn’t economical for me to drive 40 minutes every day for only 4 hours of work. Sad, but I was able to find a job only 5 minutes away from the house. I became a nanny for the most fiery little girl I have ever had the pleasure to work with. She challenged me every day and I got a glimpse at what can happen when a child is surrounded by impatience and insincerity. Her mother on the other hand was a pretty despicable human being and after a few months finally let me in on the secret that what she had promised to pay me when I first took the job, just wasn’t going to happen. So based on that new information I said, thank you kindly but goodbye. She said some pretty unkind things to me on that last day and I have no regrets about leaving except that I left that poor little girl in the hands of a terrible mother who was flat drunk the day I quit.

Moving on from that, I got a week off from work and flew home to MN to see my family, especially my wonderful Grandpa. I got to see him and spend some quality time with him. I was very grateful for this time as a few months later he passed away and I wasn’t able to go home for the funeral. It was hard on our whole family to lose such an amazing person, especially my Grandma, my mother and her 3 other siblings. A friend recommend the book Midwife For Souls and I read parts of it to see if I should give it to my family. Turns out it is a pretty awesome book, so I sent it to my mother. My mom read it and ended up recommending sections to other family members. My hope was that it would help even a little and my mom told me that it did indeed help with the approach of his death.

After I got back from my visit, I found a job pretty quickly as a Graphic Designer/Personal Assistant! It ended up being pretty awesome and my boss even let me take the job with me to Colorado and I get to work from home!!

Long story short, Casey (the boyfriend) was taking summer classes to prepare for grad school. He wants to become a physical therapist after all of the trauma and physical issues from the past year and so he started preparing. He’s applied to schools all over the country but after our visit in April, we both wanted to end up in Colorado. He found out near the middle of August that we needed to move here ASAP to work on getting residency for one of the schools here. homeSo in less than a month, with a lot of hard work, and Casey’s awesome mom helping, we thankfully found an awesome house! We’ve been both blessed and lucky in so many ways this year!

 

 

 

Check out this VIEW!!!

 

 

The view from my house!! So lucky.

The view from my house!! So lucky.

Now I am working from home and next week I start MASSAGE THERAPY SCHOOL!!!!! That’s right, I’m adding another skill to this jack-of-all-trades. It will take a year for me to finish, but in the end it will be worth it.

In the meantime, I resolve not to leave you (and myself) for so long and annoy everyone who cares to read this blog.

I’ll catch ya on the flipside 😉

 

We decided to call this forest, The Forest of Gold. With fall comes the most beautiful colors in the universe!

We decided to call this forest, The Forest of Gold. With fall comes the most beautiful colors in the universe!

Just me at Muehller State Park

Just me at Muehller State Park

Once Upon A List….

Meditation - http://pixabay.com

Meditation – http://pixabay.com

Transitioning to part-time jobs has been interesting so far. Getting two to align just right is like finding a needle in a hay stack but I trust in the universe and its good will towards me (hippy thought for the day). I know that if I keep applying and galloping along, movement will be had. In the meantime, lists are great and I have made myself a challenge of sorts. Last night I finally sat down, Googled famous or successful people’s morning routines and wrote out how I wanted my empty morning to go. A great list and although it moved slower than I anticipated, it moved at a perfectly relaxing pace. It started with 10 minutes of morning mediation, appreciating my aliveness. I still got everything I wanted done and in almost the order I proposed. Now the trick is to do that every day until I get into the habit. When I get another job, I’ll adjust and wake up earlier to accommodate this challenge. We shall see. My sister just informed me today, ironically, that she has started making a list every night and it has made the next day noticeably smoother. I just had to share this new challenge in case anyone else was struggling with a get up and go attitude.

Nanny Update!

This family is pretty awesome so far. The two boys, Elias(9) and Liam(4) are crazy, unique, gifted, trouble making great kids. Yesterday, I’m pretty sure we played legos for two hours straight. I built a terrible ship that fell a part before the evening was over. I did get a little tired and was keeping my eye out for a handy-dandy excuse to get up and stretch my legs, but overall the three of us seemed to enjoy ourselves and the destruction we rained down upon each other with our invincible alien pirate ninja characters. Elias loves anything and everything about planes and jets, he rattles off jet names and I just nod and smile. He also has a thing for cats. He says he thinks they are cute. Any little boy who can own having cute kittens as his background on his iPad…. is great! Liam on the other hand is very interested in everything, he hardly talks about himself but can’t wait to tell me about what his brother likes or doesn’t like or what his brother does or doesn’t do. They do tend to butt heads simply because they get in each others way as siblings often do. I think I’m getting a little attached.

Song of the Day – Slow Down by Twiceyoung

This is what my slow down looks like...

This is what my slow down looks like… tea next to a pretty fire!

I told you they would pop up again!

For the song of the day I have chosen Slow Down by Twiceyoung(Video), this actually goes along perfectly with being more mantis. This song is a beautiful representation of slowing down using tempo, voice, and tone. Lets help each other up today by slowing down. It’s Sunday, and the Cowboys are facing the very much disliked (because I’m from the lovely MN, go Vikings!) Green Bay Packers. The outcome could be anything and I’m anticipating much heartache and stress throughout the game whatever the ending, but I tell you Cowboy fans; We must stick together!

Alongside the nail biting game that is about to start, let this song seep into your soul and “This is for the rest of us, Hoping its alright, Old enough to die, Young enough to fight.”

 

Be More Mantis

Praying MantisThe New Year ensues and I find myself scrambling to find a job in a week after a few things fell through (as things tend to do sometimes). Yesterday I finally found an awesome family to nanny for! That’s right people, I’m going to check out child psychology through a nanny’s perspective. I’ve been thinking about going back to school for developmental behavior or child psychology because childhood is the most important part of our development as humans and I’d like to better understand it. I’m sure I’ll have lot’s of stories to share!

Back in October or September, Casey and I were going for a walk and on our way out we passed his car. I was startled to see a rather large praying mantis just chillin’ on his windshield watching our every move. I quickly ran back in to get my camera because… let’s be honest, to see a praying mantis is pretty awesome. They seem to hold this infinite wisdom all while balancing on these tiny legs, being able to move at incredible speed and see 180 degrees around themselves. We kept trying to sneak up on it and it would just swivel to find us immediately! It was crazy.Praying Mantis 2

In this busy season, when everyone is going a mile a minute, let’s be more mantis. Take some time to be still and calm. Listen to your inner creativity and expand your balance.

Best Year Ever = 2015

2015 by Pixaby.com

2015 by Pixaby.com

This year is going to be the best year of my life.

I say that every new years, but I honestly think this new year is gonna be epic! Take a good long look at this last year and see what was good, bad, and ugly about it. Here are a few reasons why I think its going to be awesome and how I’m going to make that happen.

To start, I evaluated my happiness at my job. I have been obviously unhappy here for months now and I still hadn’t been trained as I should have been for the last three months. It happens, and maybe it happened for a reason. I have always thought this job wasn’t for me and that I would need to move on to something at some point. I made it happen.

I gave my two weeks notice exactly two weeks ago from today and I’m starting new jobs next week, great way to start fresh!

Part of my job hunting has been focused on part-time jobs. I know that’s strange if you have a career driven mindset. I don’t have the typical career mindset, as I want to be my own boss. So in the mean time, I want jobs that are flexible and allow me to add jobs to my resume that I actually want on there. I want my resume to start reflecting what I am passionate about, helping people and the environment. I needed a cause or a higher calling otherwise I would have shriveled up emotionally at my corporate job.

I suppose if I want to put something down for a New Years resolution, which we all know are hard to keep and usually starts with some diet resolution. Mine I’d like to start off with Kindness and Respect. I have come to believe that these are some of the MOST important virtues to a happy society. I want to continue working on listening (to show respect) and being kind in my actions as well as words. The main issue with this is patience, which I have very little of… please wish me good luck!

To finish, if you weren’t happy with your life at the end of the year, determine what was wrong and stop doing it. We should all get a chance to start this year out right and I think eliminating exactly what we didn’t like about last year is the only way to make significant progress. It doesn’t matter how long it takes to eliminate the problem (hopefully within the new year), as long as you make progress.

Keep your chin up and eyes forward. The future is bright and the present is amazing. Embrace life and I’ll catch ya on the flipside!

Song of the Day – Oceans by Twiceyoung

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!! 2015 is going to be awesome! (Be safe tonight y’all!)

I have wanted to post this song since last week when I randomly found them by randomly stalking an old college buddy on

OCEANS - Pixaby.com

OCEANS – Pixaby.com

Spotify. In my defense…. I followed him on their because I tend to love 75% of what his music feed tells me he is listening to. That’s a pretty good margin in my head. Through my shameless fan-hood of this person’s music taste, I found Twiceyoung.. and fell in love. I love the whole CD, Little Mind Alot. I have listened to it at work (I quit my job and my last day is Friday!) on repeat at least 4 days in the past 8. I find their harmonies hypnotic and their drum parts uniquely interesting. The song I’m recommending today, Oceans (I seem to want to spell it Ocreans…every time I have typed it today), makes me feel like I am running forward, almost falling forward into my best future yet. “We can’t go back now” seems to signify a lot of my “life theories” because I tend to repeat the same advice to a lot of my friends about “Regret,” the dangerous beast that it is. I love the line “I’m not running after you, I’m not coming after you,” because it symbolizes that impossibility of going back. We must continue to beat and push our way forward. Perspectives change, and who knows how long it will take but…. anyone who is going through a tough time right now, just remember “we can’t go back now” and you will indeed see things differently, you will see what pieces were missing. You’ll be happier paying attention to now, more than what was then.

You may be seeing Twiceyoung more often. #runforward

Lyrics found here.

“I see it different, the way this all turned out, I see whats missing, But I can’t go back now, If we can finish this, You know I won’t look back, I’ll never give in, No we can’t go back now.”

Song of the Day – Anything I’m Not by Lenka

“Time in itself, absolutely, does not exist; it is always relative to some observer or some object. Without a clock I say 'I do not know the time' . Without matter time itself is unknowable. Time is a function of matter; and matter therefore is the clock that makes infinity real.”  ― John Fowles, Áristos

“Again time elapsed.” ― Carolyn Keene, The Secret of the Old Clock

Forgotten but not lost! Lenka was forgotten. Her voice and style had slipped into oblivion for about two years now. Two years is a long time to completely forget about an artist. I’m glad she resurfaced because, she gives me hope for my own song writing aspirations. She seems as close to what I could be if I had the perseverance with song writing that is necessary to be successful. I hadn’t heard Anything I’m Not (<– video with lyrics)before today but I really enjoyed its simplicity.

It goes along with my recurring theme of being yourself and being confident in your own person-hood. Be yourself and don’t be afraid to get out of your comfort zone. Sometimes you have to define what you are NOT before you can find out what you ARE.

“I will never be, I will never be you. No. I will always be, I will always be me. That I know”

Song of the Day – Afterlife by Ingrid Michaelson

Picture by Pixaby.com

Picture by Pixaby.com

I know…. two Ingrid Michaelson songs in a row! It will be a great start to your weekend though, I promise. This one isn’t really a love song to any one person, so at least it’s slightly different. Actually one of the reasons I love it is because it seems  like she is breaking out of the ballad stereotype and becoming less definable, much like Taylor Swift has been. Afterlife is just beautiful and inspiring. Its got that bounce that just makes me want to clean. Weird I know… But listen and you’ll know what I’m taking about! We are going to be alright ;). Just remember to live like there is no tomorrow.

Enjoy! Lyrics can be found here.

“We all, we all, we’re gonna be alright
We got, we got, we always got the fight in us
We all, we all, we’re gonna live tonight
Like there’s no tomorrow ’cause we’re the afterlife”

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